i love watching people in skate parks, i love the skater aesthetic. maybe i'd learn to ride a skateboard but i think my risk tolerance is too low for that
oh I already said that
getting real tired of being tired
tired of being tired
i keep thinking of things to write notebook posts about and then convincing myself it's not worth it
retail therapy
but buying something i've been meaning to buy for months and procrastinated deciding on
nice
pair programming is just so much fun sometimes <3 programming and making things can be such a joy
deliberately not writing down project ideas, to avoid them becoming burdenful todo list items that I regularly consider and think ânah not nowâ as I condition myself to never be excited about them again
i wanna be in a musical some day
âuse vacation time to do cool things iâve been wanting to do and exited aboutâ vs. âuse vacation time to just lay in the sun for hours and have zero expectations of myselfâ
(yes, i can have minimal structure or expectations of myself and still end up doing cool things)
Picked up some food today, and then, for the first time all year, wished I could sit inside the restaurant to eat it :c
too tired to think clearly?
too hungry to think clearly�
⊠too tired to be hungry enough to eat enough to think clearly??
shovelling food into the calorie hole
I regularly think about how I kinda want all my journals (and maybe also correspondences with people?) to be open for people to read after I die - but this also could hurt people or reveal other people's personal things and yeah idk seems complicated
shaved one of my legs a few days ago and haven't gotten around to shaving the other one yet
i say i spend maybe too much time hanging out with friends, but also
damn talking to friends is so often interesting and motivating and energizing
I've almost memorized all the street names of a 10x18 grid I've lived within during most of my time living in SF, and I feel like that's pretty neat
life hack: put the PJs in front of the heater for a lil while before putting them on
shower timeeee and the livin is easy
today i learned the word âpetrichorâ
turns out my channukah candles are no-drip and the way that works (or so my dad says) is there's an outer layer of wax that burns more slowly so it makes a tiny cup for the melted wax as it vaporizes so that's pretty neat
one of my favorite parts of exercising in winter is it makes me toasty warm
perhaps i would like to get better at controlling how detail-oriented i am. sometimes i review a piece of writing or a PR and really should only be commenting on high level things. but all the wrong details are so distracting. maybe the solution is to still notice them and just not comment on them
feels good to do writing review for people and say things they find helpful!
I keep finding mysterious shallow cuts on my thumbs, where do they come from?
had some weird dreams last night, mostly forgot them at this point, but i think they were mildly stressful but not close to nightmare level of stress
i wonder how much the emotional quality of my dreams affects how restful my sleep is
the sky was really pretty tonight around sunset with an almost full moon, and I tried to take a picture, but of course the moon was too small. it's weird how the moon seems so much bigger when I see it directly but not when I take pictures with my phone? why???
keep catching up with people and just sharing all the meh things happening in my life lately, realizing maybe i don't actually want to talk about those things with people and think about it all again? gotta find some other things to talk about with friends
been thinking about reading a bunch again, made a goal to abandon 20 books (i.e. read at least a chapter and not finish)
i'm most motivated to clean right when i'm supposed to be getting ready for bed, because the only thing i want to avoid more than cleaning is getting ready for bed
It's weird hearing everyone talk about Thanksgiving as this big thing. I could say it feels weird because it's a colonialist holiday or that holidays in general often feel weird to me, and that's some of why, but I think it's mostly that I never really celebrated Thanksgiving (even Canadian Thanksgiving growing up) and I don't have any sentimental attachment to it while it seems like a lot of other people do.
me: writing something complaining about how long pieces of writing is mostly just fluff
also me: taking a previous draft of this writing and making it longer
constant tension between âleave that thing out so that I'm inspired to interact with it moreâ (books, instruments, art supplies) and âugh there's too much clutter, put things away out of sightâ
the sound of rain is so pretty and calming <3
who the fuck would think it's a good idea to respond to âI don't think you understand what I'm sayingâ with âI completely understand what you're sayingâ
when will i learn to just fucking eat before my brain becomes a hungry mush đ
thinking about diversity of inspiration, iteration on existing ideas, the feeling of ownership and creative energy
good morning, garden đ±
testing thoughts from a form page
feeling afraid of lonliness and dark evenings alone in my studio
i could finally study jazz, i could finally learn several things i've been wanting to, or read more, but i'm just feeling this itching for making something big?
like, i kinda want a project, a longer term thing with several fairly different pieces that all have to come together over a longish period if time (with checkpoints of partially complete versions along the way). sort of feels like i want a big coding project?
but do i actually want a big coding project? :/ what non-coding things feel like this? what (coding or not) would feel meaningful or useful or cool?
seems not ideal to chase a feeling rather than a specific idea, but i guess i'll keep the idea-prongs out there
wow i set up my phone to be able to write thoughts from it! with code on my phone!!
organizational initiative as a love language
i downloaded a new habit app again. thinking of just having a list of all the things I might enjoy doing and not worrying too much about doing them a lot. just keeping them there are a reminder. it's nice to switch up habit systems regularly, since i feel like like it's nice to have a sense of novelty, and it's an opportunity to switch up how i'm doing things
watching a health care enrollment zoom presentation right now, is strange and unnerving on so many levels
i wonder when i'll stop having dreams about flirting with my childhood crush
i want to expand my pod and everyone's covid safety-precuation situation is so complex and i hate how much effort it takes to have these conversations to the depth that i want mrah!! communication is hard but important
i think i underappreciate reading as a low-key activity
like, even if i'm not in the mood to read, the act of sitting around and staring into space and thinking when i'm not actually reading â it feels relaxing in a way that sitting around without anything in particular to do often isn't
been observing more consciously when i feel like listening to music vs not, and when songs are especially stuck in my head
it seems like songs being annoyingly stuck in my head is correlated with anxiety (like, there is stickiness to the song the way there is stickiness to my thoughts)
and also when life feels too stimulating, generally music also feels too stimulating (though this isn't always the case)
still haven't found any fully consistent patterns, but it's interesting to notice
new 2020 goal: be one of those couples laying down snuggling in the park in the sunshine
why are so many things bad â> maybe my standards are just really high â> wow i'm so pretentious â> but also dammit i wish people were more competent at things
trying to move away from the good/bad dichotomy
but !!! !!!!!
i feel like i'm getting better at reading, or at least getting more practice in it
sometimes i'll read a sentence i don't understand and decide to just move on, i'd like to maybe learn to do that even more?
i'm in a book club and we're reading some essays that are hard to understand easily, and i feel like despite feeling confused while reading the essays, i come out on the other end knowing approximately what the author was trying to say and that's extremely satisfying
i also enjoy taking notes on pieces of the writing i find confusing but seem like they might be interesting, as conversation starters, and that's been working nicely too
biking is such a great time for thinking
from my journal a year ago:
> I keep thinking about how someone said my âtypeâ is âsad computer boyâ lmao > > I feel like it's more âquiet nerdy boy that is thoughtful and artsyâ (though they probably have significant overlap)
making this garden site is possibly the most uncomplicated very nice thing that has happened in my life for all of covid
look I have thoughts on this tweet
5 x 5 = 25 is Friday energy because of the fives. Friday is the fifth work week day, and Friday even looks and sounds a bit like five-day
7 x 3 = 21 is Wednesday similarly because Wednesday is three. 3 is three. 21 is 2+1=3.
7 x 7 = 49 is Thursday is a little harder, but my best guess is that 7 is the generic âbetter than average but not 100% of the way thereâ number and Thursday is the same mood. And also 4 is in 49
do other people feel this too? or am i just coming up with silly stories for feelings that cannot be explained
i sat down and closed my eyes, and just saw conveyor belts
anyways playing factorio has been quite fun so far
new name for the bishop that's easier to remember: diagonal dude
feeling some deep âfuck 2020â vibes rn
was grateful when i woke up and saw some sunlight, how is this my life now?
i just want to be able to go outside without the air being unhealthy to breathe?
in some ways it's comforting to share this experience with many others, but it's also hard to witness so much suffering when I am barely getting along myself
i just want to be excited with friends
i just want to feel inspired to make things
i just want to stare into a stranger's eyes and smile
i just want to sing harmonies with someone in the same space
i just want to exist in a space that isn't this house
this house is becoming the space where i am sad
how do i undo that
how do i escape?
there's nowhere to go
floating in the space between moments of fresh joy, waiting for the next one
big toe toenails are so big. like, if you take all the other toenails on a foot and combine them, do they even make up the size of the big toe?
slow streets are overrated
there are so many more people walking and biking on page than on waller which is 2 blocks further and has barely any car traffic
reading my journalling from a year ago and was amused by this
> It's funny, I say in my newsletter and stuff that it's hard to describe burning man, but I think I actually wrote that for burning man people who say it's hard to describe, because I don't want them to read my thing and feel like I'm simplifying it. But like, I can put words to it, it's not that hard
bless the sun and xer children
thank you, pink in the night, for being such an incredibly satisfying crying/longing song
that feeling when I've copied something but not pasted it yet and it feels like I'm holding it in my fingers, and gotta remember it's there so I don't overwrite it
and the release when I finally paste it again and am like âoh right! good, glad that's still thereâ
i should really install one of those things that holds my copy history âŠ..one day
ugh sometimes I write with capital letters and sometimes i don't and it's been kinda hard to find patterns for when I'm in the mood for one or the other (does it depend where i'm writing? what i'm writing?)
definitely one thing that makes a difference is being able to use linebreaks or parens to separate ideas. I'm not really that into using only a period to separate two sentences, capital letters help with the visual separation. Usually when I end up writing a paragraph instead of a line, I'll go back and update the first letter, but I'll leave it here to make a point
also the thing that's maybe the most interesting to me is some people's names I'm more likely to use capital letters for than others? i imagine a lot of this is how people write their own names
been thinking about the the state of âchillâ, not as absence of anxiety, but as perspective in the face of difficult situations, a trust that things will work out
i think it takes a lot of privilege to feel like things will all work out, but if i got it then i'm def gonna use it to nurture my mental health and relationships
i feel like a year ago i'd never have described myself as chill
but âŠmaybe âŠi would now?
a year ago i was in a car heading to burning man⊠time is wild yo
voice calls (as opposed to video) are often less personal (bc people are distractingly looking at other things, and can't see each other's facial expressions)
but sometimes the voice call is most intimate
laying on our beds together, eyes closed, like pillow talk
this thought comes to you from a new laptop!! hopefully the script still works lol
people tell me I'm very emotive with my eyebrows and I wonder if this helps me communicate while wearing a mask ^^'
i feel like i've gotten pretty good at noticing opportunities for joy, pursuing them, and savouring resulting good feels
I REALLY LIKE WARM WEATHER and sunshine and the way the air hugs me
it's like real summer
brings back such happy summer memories
o shit the cad->usd is almost back at the rate i was using pre-covid (when i was halfway through moving money to usd)
nice
got a mosquito bite on my ankle again, in just the worst spot where both my shoe and pant leg rub against it
i don't think about âacts of serviceâ as a love language much, but wow it really is so nice when a task that feels quite difficult to me is something a loved one is happy to help me with <33
played myself once again by eating at weird times, such that i want to go to bed now but am suddenly very hungry
someone told me recently that âhope you're doing wellâ is a classic response for being nice to someone when they reach out but you don't actually want to have a conversation, and it's so true
i haven't seen my partner in over 6 months, but he found one of my hairs with some of his old hardware ^_^
been having a lot less thinking energy lately (or it runs out faster? am i using it more intensely?) and it's not super fun
took me a while to realize that when my metallic sharpies stop being metallic and more dry, I can just store them vertically (tip down) and they get shiny again
omg i just guessed A440 and got it right?!?!!
i seem to only come up with âthoughtâ thoughts when i'm away from the computer, which is a problem because then i don't have a computer to enter them onto
i love a good satisfying burp, but even better is when it tastes like something delicious i ate recently
new yoga routine:
i feel like i'm always eating only enough to stop being hungry, never enough to actually be full
i'm living with a kitty and all day she long she just sleeps, plays, curiously explores her world, and shamelessly seeks attention from the people around her. and she does this all while being extremely cute
#goals tbh
Someone once told me I was very wise and emotionally mature for my age, that I had so much career potential, and that I should savour that before I got older and was just normal for my age. She said that's what happened to her.
When I was young, people were really impressed with my singing and songwriting skills. I didn't spend that much time developing them, and so I feel like I'm âgoodâ at singing now but not impressive in the way it was for me to sing well when I was seven.
I don't think this person's advice was that great, and I think if I continue to think carefully about the things I care a lot about, I can still be âremarkableâ later in life (though maybe I want to reconsider my desire to be âremarkableâ). But I still think about what she said every so oftenâŠ
the attention to detail in this video brings me much calm joy https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vVX_WSpqJ5w
there's a path through the park i've found that i really enjoy, but i'm scared that if i walk through it too much it'll get boring and stop being magical :c
i've been mostly avoiding thinking about (and therefore missing) activities from The Days Before, but climbing a tree today reminded me of how fun rock climbing isâŠ
this morning it took me like 3 or 4 tries to check the time when i woke up, which was important because i had a morning meeting. the first few times i looked, i was actually dreaming and it was a different number each time.
this actually happens to me kinda frequently, and while it's sort of annoying, i mostly find the blurring between reality and dreamland pretty fun
just spent an hour scrolling through every single hank green tiktok (https://twitter.com/hanktiktok)
iâŠ.really like hank green
I said I was hungry and my housemate made me a grilled cheese with mushrooms and⊠that was the first time in months I've been fed without having to think about what I wanted or put in effort to get or prepare the food. Wow it feels real nice
i need to fix this thing so i can feel better â> i need to feel better so i can fix this thing
At some point several months ago I started a habit of wrapping up catch-up conversations with âis there anything you're looking forward to soon?â when I didn't have any other easy transition to end the conversation, and I feel like it's an A+ conversation tool. It does have the unfortunate side effect of being quite depressing if someone doesn't have anything they are looking forward to :x
i've been informed that the colour of my eyes is âlike a rock in a clear streamâ (the top left rock) and this is a very soothing thought
memorizing a poem is neat because I'm carefully noticing and thinking about every single word of the poem in a way I never would if I were just reading it
bedtime routine, 2020
I turn my phone on airplane mode to create a clean break from the internet and the apps. Bedroom and hallway lights are turned off in favour of dimmer lights like fairy lights and a nightlight in the bathroom. I open the door between my room and my housemate's room, and we chat as we stretch together, releasing tension in our bodies and minds.
bedtime routine, 2005
My mom sits on my bed and sings me goodnight songs. She sings the shm'a, since connecting to our jewish roots is important to her despite us not being particularly religious. She sings Amazing Grace, but replaces the word âwretchâ with âsoulâ, since she is uncomfortable with calling oneself a wretch. She sings Hush Little Baby, which I can still recite from memory. She used to be self-conscious of her singing voice, but my dad helped her feel confident enough to sing lullabies. As she leaves, we say to each other: âgood night, love you, see you in the morning, sweet dreamsâ (always those four phrases, always in that order) and then âlove you!â again at the end so it's the last thing we say to each other before sleep.
rituals with people are really nice
a ceremony for the full moon:
--- connect to nature
--- fullness of the moon // fullness of our lives
list some things you're grateful for. take moments of silence when you want to think of more things. when you feel done, say âthank youâ, now it's the next person's turn
--- what would you like amplified or illuminated within you?
(each person answers)
--- connect to art
each share a poem or song with the group
called my friend tonight who introduced to me two terms she uses that I thought were neat
my housemate was memorizing a poem today, just so she could recite it whenever she felt like it. this feels very appealing to me. i've considered memorizing When I Am Among the Trees before, and maybe i'll actually do it
somehow over shelter-in-place i've transitioned from having my todo list mostly in asana to having misc todos and notes in a markdown file on my laptopâŠ. seems fine? (though I probably want to put git on it and commit daily to keep some history idk)
writing a list of the ~30 small things weighing on my mind is extremely cathartic, would recommend
I've been thinking about the labels of introversion/extroversion and people who ârechargeâ from alone time vs people time, and I'm wondering if people identify this way because of ways they've learned to spend time alone or with people
How many âintrovertedâ people find socializing draining because haven't developed the toolkit or social circles to help their connections with people feel energizing and nourishing? How many âextrovertedâ people find alone time unpleasant because they haven't figured out what solo activities they enjoy doing on their own?
working remotely during covid has helped me feel a lot more optimistic about being able to move out of SF to a less techy city - I'm more confident now that I could be happy working a remote job (though I'd want to work with super social/collaborative people, and idk how many of those folks would work on remote teams post-covid instead of going back to offices)
i moved today! some thoughts:
a friend was thinking about how to know when you're in love with someone and asked me about it
I have a lot of thoughts on âbeing in loveâ, which are mostly that I don't think there's a set definition for it, and lots of people experience love differently than each other, and differently at different points in a relationship, and differently for different people. These days I find it kind of strange that people say they love each other without really knowing if they're even experiencing similar kinds of love - though also, who can really know what anyone else is actually ever feeling?
Usually I label my feelings as being âin loveâ when I feel this deep affection for and desire to be close to someone, and it feels comfortable and just so nice. I think sometimes this is infatuation, but I would consider this a flavour of love? (and it blends into other kinds of love in ways I can't even really separate) and often I won't tell someone because that's sort of taboo to say it so quickly
The first weekend I started dating someone, they told me they loved me but also added a disclaimer for what they meant by that, and now I like to think more about what I mean when I say I'm in love with someone. Sometimes it means things like: I feel really happy around them, I trust them a lot, I deeply want good things for them
I wish fewer people felt self-conscious singing (esp in somewhat public spaces) but singing happy birthday seems like one of those things where it's more socially acceptable to sing it badly, which warms my heart.
asked my housemate about her thoughts on reading today and she said: skimming a written passage is like drinking soylent - sure you took the shortcut, but did you enjoy it?
the idea of being a âgoodâ reader is appealing to me - to be able to read things quickly, read wordy things, skim a long piece of medandering writing to find takeawaysâŠ
I've talked to so many people who don't read much but say they want to, or feel like they should. I wonder if we overvalue reading, vs things like conversation or video or reading short things - all of which also educate and entertain. Why does reading a book or long article about a topic feel more legit than learning about it through blog posts, tweets, youtube videos, and conversations? (I feel like it's something about perceived depth and rigour)
But it's not just about books. There's so much content on the internet that seems useful and interesting, and if I could read faster, read more complex language, read longer passages without my eyes blurring over⊠that seems like it would be really great.
I go back and forth on this. Sometimes I try to build reading habits and prioritize learning through reading, and it feels good to do that in my downtime instead of scroll through social media. Sometimes I feel like it's not worth priorizing energy towards it. I haven't explicitly focused on building reading skills (I guess I assumed I'd develop them by reading more) but maybe that's something worth looking into.
love playing the âwhy does my body feel uncomfortableâ game
shower thoughts:
tajin mango is sooooo good
I've been at my new job for just over half a year now, and it's the first job I've had in a while where I feel happy, and supported, and like I'm learning lots and working with people I trust.
I put in so much work to find a job like this, and essentially am still only here because I got lucky in many ways. I still can't believe this is real? I hope I can always set the bar this high
emoji reactions are often appreciated but still imo strongly underrated
they validate, show solidarity, build community culture, are opportunities for creativity and humour and play
they're just⊠so good
attention-seeking is just a flavour of connection-seeking, often with a dash of power-seeking added in
today's meditation: standing in the kitchen, eyes closed, enjoying warmth in my palms as I hold a bowl just taken out of the dishwasher
having gummy vitamins is dangerous because i get hungry and am like oo gummies no no don't eat as snacks
github.com hasn't been loading on my laptop for several days (but other websites work fine, and github.com loads on my work laptop and phone) and it's so strange, and it's been fun nerdsniping people into teaching me about networking (and âŠnerdsniping myself into wanting to learn about technology outside of work, lol)
fuck my uterus (any place I post thoughts should have at least one complaint about the pain and inconvenience my uterus causes me)
lay down in the grass and watched clouds pass by, clouds are pretty neat
i think i've developed a real puzzle addiction, so i've been setting timers while i puzzle so that i force myself to get up
when i decided i wanted to send people postcards, i didn't really consider that this form of writing is generally casual and lighthearted, due to the format of it being readable by anyone
⊠i guess i gotta learn how to communicate like that now :p
can i approach moments of deep emotional discomfort with curiosity? i learn all these strategies in therapy and whatever, and these are the moments where i get to actually try them out and see what works. i want to better understand what motivates my anxieties and anxious moments are my chance to observe them.
but alas it's so daunting and unappealing sometimes
my smol thoughts so far aren't as smol as i was expecting ^^'
how private what I write is
barrier to seeing it
interaction
discovery of new content
wasn't sure if i wanted to wake up to see the sunrise this morning
but then i had a dream where i missed my alarm and woke up at 10am and was sad
then i âwoke upâ into another dream where I woke up only 15 min before sunrise and was rushing to get ready and leave
then i woke up for reals, 2 min before my alarm (50 min before sunrise), and i was very sleepy but also VERY motivated to get up
nested dreams are so brain tickly in the best way
yay my thoughts page is live!!
thanks maren for coming up with this idea, and wesley for telling me about it and helping me write my own version! ^_^
